Hypnotherapy Potential

Greetings from Doc Judie
Beautiful Body at 65 through hypnosis and amino acids  
Met Helen Mirren age 65, actress, and recent nor of the "best bikini body...beating out Jennifer Lopez!!!  Helen is 65 years old and an inspiration to women of all ages.Now granted, she is a timeless British actress who takes her physical health serious and works out in the gym every day, but this is about her timeless spirit and how we all have a little Helen Mirren in us.  I am putting this picture up on my refrigerator; I have two years and at 70, I will send out my birthday announcement in a bikini as well!!!  i work with women in their late 40's 50's, 60's and 70's that have lost weight, built up bodies, and have amazing strength at any age.  Here is the formula.  
l. My clients have to have motivation to lose weight, tone up, change eating habits and stick to a three month regime.  2. They commit to a weekly session and monthly group session.  During the first meeting, a physical chart is created noting what they eat, how do they exercise, what is their energy level, and sleep level.  3 They design their own "realistic plan" which must take into consideration any medical or physical limitations. 4. The exercise program is designed around their ability and choices are offered.  In my area, there are many year around pools open for swimming and water aerobics. There are hiking trails, gyms, yoga, pilates and weight lifting opportunities.  5. Their food intake is analyzed and regardless of how they wish to cut down on their calories, sugar and white flour products are eliminated or cut down. Their diet consists of protein (vegans can substitute) vegetables, a little fresh fruit and eight to ten glasses of water.Amino acid compounds are taken to help with the building of new muscles and melt away fat  I use a compound called Amino Balance that has 19 aminos in it and people feel wonderful immediately when they take it. I also use L-Glutamine that helps with the sugar and carb cravings.  If my clients are having trouble sleeping Tryptophan is added to the list. No alcohol, and absolutely no sodas. 
With the aminos, it is not that difficult. 6. This sounds like the typical regime but when hypnosis is added f
or motivation and understanding how food is used (ie for comfort, stress buster, or entertaining) Here is a sample of the script that I use:

















Congratulations, you are doing something wonderful for yourself.  You have made a commitment to lose weight and tone up your body.  On the surface, you will look much better, but the benefits go much deeper than losing a couple of dress or pant sizes.  Your entire body will work better.  Many of you will notice that your blood pressure is down, your heart rate beats slower and your aches and pains in your joints are gone! When you start you will be very excited.  You will be in touch with "body buddies" going through the same thing and you will cheer each other on.  I am your coach and I know how to give you this wonderful knowledge, but it is you that has the desire to change.  You are doing the work. So when times get tough, when you are having a bad day and old habits of wanting comfort food creep up on you do this.  Take a deep breathe and think of the fat dripping off that donut working its way down to your beautiful clean arteries. Think of that sugary treat messing up the acids in your stomach and giving you diarrhea.  Know that sugar spikes your blood pressure and makes your mind race and you do not concentrate as well, you do not sleep as well. You have this knowledge and you are able to say no thank you, "I choose not to eat anything that will hurt my body." You will even notice over a period of time that you no longer crave starches, fats and sugars.  Your body is running on clean efficient fuel.  You would not put "sugar in your car's gas tank," and you won't put it in your fuel tank either.  Notice how wonderful you feel when you have walked, worked out, or stretched.  Feel your body sculpting,this is want you want and you are on your way to reaching your goal. No mater how many little slips you have along the way, if you keep working the program, IT WILL BE IMPOSSIBLE TO FAIL  You and Helen Merrin now know the secret that you can look good at any age-go get your bikini body!
Here is to your mental and physical health
Doc Judie
judie@docjudie.com
775 7823889
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Couples; Fondness and Admiration #4
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This is a little mini-series of John Gottman Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Gottman is the master of relationships, and I base this not on his research and body of work, but the way the man lives his life.  I was at a Ericksonian seminar in Southern California (2000) and sat behind John Gottman, his wife and his daughter.  They were like 'kids in love" they passed notes to each other, held hands, helped their young daughter draw pictures and really enjoyed each other's company.  How interesting that I noticed him and thought "wow, that couple is really in love, they have such fondness and admiration for each other. I did not realize that I was about to meet the country's foremost relationship expert!  So take it from a man who walks his walk and talks his talk, I am a great fan.

Admiration and fondness are often lost when a couple is hitting a brick wall in their relationship.  It may be right away that things start to slip, or it could be years into the relationship.  There are secret thoughts that go through every couple's head: "If he says that one corny phrase one more time, I am going to blow" Or "why can't she balance the checkbook, how hard can it be"

If your relationship is in trouble, it is likely that there is not much praise, kindness, affection and sex usually falls by the wayside. So how do you get it back? Focus on your past and see if there are a few smoldering embers left of positive feelings. Of course, many relationships will come up empty when there is too much contempt and defensiveness to even remember why you are together. Yet Gottman states that "94 percent of the time, couples who put a positive spin on their relationship history are likely to have a happy future as well. "
Hypnosis:
I use Gottman's tests found in his book and on line Gottman.com, but I also use my own version of regressing my clients through hypnosis to remember what brought them together.  The script does not concentrate on the negative, they are usually giving their problems full attention by the time they come to see me, so the positive aspects are pointed out in this regression session:
"Think back to when you first met, what was the situation, the initial attraction  What was your best date? Your best memory? What  specific qualities make you feel proud to be with your partner. Recall early goals, times that were difficult that you got through together,  funny moments that you forgot about." The body language of the couple will usually tell me if there are some warm spots in the embers, or if they are stone cold.

If there is a slight smile or eye movement (remembering back to the past is often noted by little subtle movements that can be detected through closed eyelids). Sighs, slight smiles and finger movement as well show that the subconscious is engaged in memory) there is hope for the spark to burn brightly once again.  It is not an automatic after one session or an Ah ha! moment of "we still got it!".  It takes work to "keep it!"
More on turning toward each other instead of away on the next blog.
Here's to your mental and physical health.
Doc Judie
judie@docjudie.com
775 7823889

#3 Couples address past issues
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If you just picked up this blog, I am following the seven principals of marriage as outlined by John Gottman.

Gottman talks about couples that usually have a good marriage turn toward eachother and not away. He does not look for big gestures, but the boring every day interactions. One spouse may look out the window and say, I think it is starting to rain, I'll roll up the windows in your car for you.  The other spouse will look up from the newspaper and say, thanks, I'll have some hot chocolate ready for you when you come in.  Other couples appear to spend time together, but one is reading the newspaper the other watching the news on TV with no interaction outside of room mate talk. Other times it is just litter courtesies during the day; thanking someone for passing the salt, or saying "I'm going to the kitchen, do you need anything?" While other couples eat in silence, grunt at eachothers comments, or do not look up at eachother. It is not hard to see which couples have the better marriage, the ones that turn toward eachother and connect.
They don't always agree on everything, but they do respect eachothers' opinion.

I found some interesting exercises in Gottman's book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work that addressed past issues.
The check list for feelings about marriage:
The way I was treated in my family growing up
A previous relationship
Past injuries, hard times, or traumas I've suffered
My basic fears and insecurities
things and events I have not yet resolved or put aside
unrealized hopes I have
Ways other people treated me in the past
Things I have always thought about myself
Old nightmares or catastrophes I have worrried about

Hypnotherapy:
I thought this would be a great segway for my couples who could not let go of past issues and used hypnosis for each partner to take a trip to the past.  The scrip varies but addresses past issues that linger in the brain and translate to the present relationship.  Each partner looks at issues in their past and is instructed to let go of anything that hurt them, put them down, told them that they were not good enough or hurt them in any way.  These are old scripts that have no use in their present relationship.

Post hypnosis suggestion is to journal about these feeling and how they have brought these old feelings into their marriage and work on making it better.  Each case is different, but usually old chips on the shoulder can fall away, they understand that they are reacting  
the same way their parents did, or they are hearing a former spouse's voice. 

Through the journaling, they can then come up with one thing in the future to make a better connection their spouse. When they are comfortable with the new look at their relationship, each partner can tell the other what they would like to change. This new awareness, dialog, sharing the journals often help couples connect in a new fresh way, and let go of their past problems. Give it a try if the past is haunting your relationshlp, even if you were not aware of it.
Here's to your mental and physical health
Doc Judie
judie@docjudie.com
775 7823889

Hypnotherapy for Couples

By the time a couple comes to therapy for a broken marriage, they have been in a stressful situation for a long time. They may have seen one or more counselors along the bumpy road, and hypnotherapy is often a "last resort."  I often have one party to the marriage seek me out privately and cry out "just fix him/or her and make it go back the way it was." That request is like putting toothpaste back in the tube, once out, it won't go back!  So I offer a new solution, "your old marriage is not working or you would not be here. how about a fresh new start?" So instead of just doing normal therapy and fixing the immediate problem, I work harder by using both sides of the brain to sort out the steps that led the couple to my office and "learn" from the mistakes. I start with the basic intake to see where the stressors are lying: Finances, life changes, kids moving out, pregnancies, affairs, drugs, alcohol etc. I then ask them what they do to take care of their health. Are they eating well, exercising, sleeping? I often suggest amino acids as their brain neurotransmitters levels are usually low in stressful situations. The amino acids are specific fuels used to create natural "feel good" chemicals in the body. Usually Phenylalaine, GABA, and Trytophan can restore norepinephrine and serotonin;  the feel good chemicals of the brain.

If my clients don't feel good, they cannot put up with even the smallest amount of stress? Deep diaphram breathing is taught to break tension, learning how to control emotions, stopping throughts before they fly out of the mouth is part of the program,. Finally putting all the problems out on the table and concentrating on solutions and how things can be better

If my couples are willing to work and want the marriage to succeed and get better, it usually does.  I always ask, how bad do you want to fix the problem, and what are you willing to do on your part to make things better.  I then stand back and let them come up with their own solutions.  This is where hypnotherapy comes into play.

In a tense stressful situation where both sides are defensive, I often do not get much cooperation from the conscious, judgemental portion of the brain because it is holding on to its point of view and fighting for it.  When my couples are hypnotized, they relax, they let go of their prejudices and righteous stances and go to the creative subconscious where they can see possible solutions.  I guide them through memories of good times and how they would like it to be,, but they usually do most of the visualization.  Hypnosis does not mean a lot of chatter.  Sometimes just setting the stage, offering a scenario and being quiet is all that is necessary.  The subconscious mind will go where it wants to go and find solutions to the problems.

I find that using hypnosis along with traditional therapy is the best combination of therapy that I can offer my clients.  It is easier on them, more effective and they usually solve their problems (or quit immediately)  If there is hope, they will find the way with their eyes closed!

Here's to your mental and physical health
Doc Judie 775 782-3889 judie@docjudie.com